​Here’s a look at our Christmas budget for this year. There is still quite a bit that could be trimmed, but it is an improvement from 2017. I may actually be under budget in a few spots, but I have a few friends I haven’t included either, so I expect a few small gifts to be added to the list.
                                                    


                                                                                                                                                                   2018                       2017
Décor (including tree and wreath)                        $120.00                   $120.00
Presents for PoniesandFIREjr                                $210.00                   $300.00
Cards                                                                         $15.00                     $40.00
Gifts for teachers                                                     $40.00                     $75.00
Gifts for nieces and nephew                                  $100.00                   $200.00
Gift for parents                                                         $50.00                     $50.00
Gift for MIL                                                                $90.00                      $90.00
Holiday party costs                                                  $100.00                   $100.00
Baking supplies                                                         $30.00                   NEW for 2018
Christmas Eve dinner/Christmas morning brunch  $75.00                   $75.00
Gifts for each other                                                   $150.00                  $300.00
TOTAL                                                                         $980.00                  $1,350.00                               
 
I added a new category for baking supplies this year. I want to do some serious cookie making with PoniesandFIREjr, since he loves to bake lately. I am trying to focus on activities and memories over things, so this is our Christmas activity to do list:
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1.       Christmas movie marathon with hot cocoa and snuggles with the puppies
2.       Walk around the property. We take a lot of walks in the warm weather, but skip out in the winter. I think a family walk in the cold weather will be good for us.
3.       Drive around and look at the lights
4.       Get our tree. There is a local farm about 5 minutes from our house where you can cut your own and they have free hot cider and donuts. It’s a super fun day.
5.       Tree decorating and listening to Christmas music. Maybe with a little wine. ;)
6.       Make cookies together and decorate.
7.       Make treats for the horses and bring them to the barn.
8.       Read all our Christmas books together.
9.       Write a letter to Santa.
10.   Put together a bag of donations for our local center that distributes clothes, toys and household items to those in need for free.

I also host a holiday party each year for clients. It's basically a potluck dinner/drinks/hang out at our house for a few hours. The $100 budget covers some of the food, drinks and party supplies. We always end up with leftovers that we eat for days.
 
What free or inexpensive activities do you have planned for the holidays? Leave me a comment! :) 

But I'm psyched for Christmas!

I love this time of year. Well, I love the holidays. I hate the cold, but Thanksgiving through Christmas is my JAM. Last year, Christmas with a four year old was awesome. I have a feeling, Christmas with a five year old this year is going to be even better.

Wanting to maximize all the holiday fun, without breaking the budget, I'm working on a list of Family Holiday Experiences to go all out this year. Here's what I have so far:

1. Write a letter to Santa. PoniesandFIREjr just discovered the fun of mail and we will be writing a letter to Santa together.
2. Go for a winter walk. We love family hiking, but as soon as it's cold, we tend to stop. I'm thinking we will do a winter walk and maybe hang up some homemade bird feed around our property.
3. Drive around and look at the lights. We have some neighborhoods reasonably close by that decorate, so this is a fun family evening. We'll bring some hot cocoa for the ride.
4. Bake cookies for our neighbor. We live in the country, so not a lot of close neighbors, but we do have one widowed neighbor whom I'm sure would love a delivery of cookies from PoniesandFIREjr. 
5. Cut our own tree. Annual tradition. We then spend the evening decorating and listening to Christmas music.
6. Family movie night to watch all the classics - Rudolph, Frosty, etc.
7. Make homemade horse treats and bring them to all the horses at the barn. This one is a little specific to our family, but is a fun tradition for us!
8. Have a "no electronics night" in our new family Christmas PJs and read all our Christmas books and play board games.
9. Put together a bag of donations for our local organization that helps families in need. Mostly outgrown clothes and toys.
10. Put together a bag of donations for the dog rescue where we adopted our dog.

Any other holiday traditions you and your family do that don't cost much? Leave me a comment!

Mortgage – $1950 (11/16)
Electric - $115
DishTV - $75
Insurance bill - $500 (11/19)
Daycare - $928 (11/1)
Groceries - $450
Gas/Diesel - $400
Trash - $35
Cellphones - $115
Truck payment - $551
Savings - $1,000
Spending money - $152
Clothing - $150 (way above normal, we all needed a few things this month)
Sinking funds - $250
Travel/Thanksgiving - $150
Disney Vacation – PAID ALREADY
Total – $6,721
 
Income –
$6,721
 
Our income is an estimate, as Mr. PoniesandFIRE never knows exactly what his hours will be, so we budget based on the prior year weekly average. This income also doesn’t include my side business income, as we don’t want to rely on that, nor does it include anything extra like Poshmark sales.
Basically, we like to budget based on worst case income scenario and then that helps smooth the waters when things pop up that we forgot to plan for.
Anxiously counting down until next summer, when daycare costs will cease. Our plan is for me to work from home/go into the office after Mr. PoniesandFIRE gets home/take some time off in July and August until PoniesandFIREjr starts Kindergarten in September.
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We are working on small goals this month, with big things on the horizon for us.
1.       Add $1,000 to savings
2.       Pay off our insurance bill completely ($500)
3.       Enjoy Thanksgiving and our first vacation in over 3 years!

We are headed to Disney at the end of the month and cannot wait to see the Christmas decorations in Disney. PoniesandFIREjr does not know yet, we plan to wake him up the morning we are leaving and surprise him then.

Why are we doing a vacation when we still have debt? Well, for starters, several years ago, we agreed our next Disney vacation would be when the mortgage was under $130k. We hit that last month!

Secondly, it is paid for. We have paid it off already, we have spending money set aside and will bring zero debt home with us.

We certainly could have used the funds we spent on this to pay down our truck, but it only would have changed our pay off date by a few months and we plan to kill the truck loan by spring, either way.

I am trying to embrace a little more balance in our lives, as I tend to get crazy intense on the finances. I’m sure Dave Ramsey and some of the FIRE community would disagree with our choice to do a vacation like this now, but honestly, they don’t live in my house. Personal finance is personal and at the end of the day, my husband and I are the ones that have to live with our choices.
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That being said, we have already agreed that our next big vacation won’t be until we are 100% debt free, house included. I expect we will come home from this vacation fired up to get killing our debt, if only for the promise of another guilt free vacation. 

Every year it seems like I dread this time of year. I hate being cold. I hate buying propane and wood pellets. I hate how early it gets dark. I hate the thought of coming snow. I dream of spring.

This year, for the first time, I actually am feeling some joy heading into this time of year. Our wood pellets and propane are already purchased and paid for with cash and while I still hate being cold, I am looking forward to cozy nights at home in front of our pellet stove. I’m looking forward to apple pies, crock pot meals and all the upcoming holidays. I’m looking forward to our paid for in cash vacation.

I still don’t want the cold and snow, but I will try to embrace the positives of the seasons. I assume this is some version of maturity finally hitting me?

It’s a little bit how I am starting to feel about our debt free journey. When we started paying things off, I just wanted to be on the next step. I wanted to be totally debt free and have the freedom that comes with owing no one. I wanted the options that that promised our family. But here we are in 2018 with around $150k in debt between our truck and house and even if we are as intense as possible and chase every raise, bonus, side hustle money and I sell every extra item in our house on Poshmark, we are still looking at a few years to hit freedom.

I desperately want the debt freedom. I want our monthly budget to be small enough that we can live off of one of our salaries. I’m starting to get that I can want that and fervently work for that, while still enjoying the NOW. I can enjoy where we are in the journey, I can take pauses, I can breathe.

Life is a journey, not a destination. I get it, it sounds corny, but I’ve always understood that. It turns out though, that understanding is not the same as embracing. I’ve been hitting this debt journey will blinders on and felt like a failure every month that went by where I didn’t exceed the previous month’s progress.
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So, here is my promise to myself for the rest of 2018. I will embrace where we are NOW. I will still look to the future and work to get there, but I will not sacrifice the enjoyment of now. Life isn’t going to happen when we are debt free. Life is happening now.
 

We are not super strict on our grocery budget. We have come a long way since we started and with the opening of Aldi in our town, we are spending less than ever. That being said, we are not that firm about cutting here. Even without really trying that hard, we keep spending less and less. We are loosely keeping to around $100/week and most weeks we are under budget.
How is this possible?

1.       We are utilizing everything possible from our garden. This year I actually succeeded with a bumper crop of zucchini, squash, tomatoes, onions and more. What we aren’t using, I am actually freezing. Or I was, until I ran out of freezer space.
2.       We are eating all our leftovers, religiously. They either come to work with us as lunch the next day, or we have a leftover night for dinner.
3.       We are planning our meals in advance and planning meals that are cost effective.
4.       We are paying attention to what’s on sale!
 
None of this is really challenging. Sure, there are days where we get crazy and get home late and are tired, but we can plan for that! On those nights, we pop in our frozen pizza from Aldi or just do leftovers. It’s better for us and cheaper than the old days where we might order a pizza or just run for Chinese food on those nights. It is amazing what just a little pre-planning and paying attention has done for our finances surrounding our grocery bills.
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